A full moon in Libra: where the Sun is in Libra and the Moon is opposite in Aries…
What a polarizing conversation. Libra the peacemaker; Aries the fighter. Libra longing for partnership; Aries demanding sovereignty. Loving Libra wants nothing more than to be in love and married; Aries is the part in all of us that idealizes being alone and free—yet still thinking something is wrong to want to be single/alone… Hello, Lady Gaga (an Aries), who symbolizes feminine freedom at all costs.
It’s always fascinated me that the well-seasoned married guy or gal imagines what it would be like to be single, or with a partner who was ‘different’ than who they are with—dreaming of the person you ‘should’ have been with…while there are some single, ummarried people who imagine what it would be like to be in love and living with their dream partner. This is the source of all romance novels and great love stories. Welcome to a Libra fantasy.
‘The grass is always greener on the other side’ is the slogan for this polarization. Some wish they were with someone different, some wonder why they never found the ‘one’.
It’s not true: the grass is not greener. Remember that song: ‘Love the one you’re with’? Do it with clarity and strong decision making.
This full moon reminds all of us that indecisiveness (Libra) is opposite clarity (Aries). We need to be in or out—with full conviction, not the vague, ambivalent kind of love for this full moon.
Conviction is needed in love, politics and business. Take a stand. Hold your truth. Make a decision. If you can’t, ask for help.
Libra inspires coaches, counselors, and therapists. This is the part in all of us that needs to be transparent and to talk, with the support of someone asking you the hard questions: Am I honest? (Aries) Am I in love and willing to give my all? (Libra) If not, how do I tell the truth to myself? (Aries) Who will help me talk to myself with clarity? (Libra)
During quarantine, I had some major relationships shift (I wrote about this months ago). This last week, on the Equinox, I had a chance to finally sit eye-to-eye with my ex—to complete. This is the hardest and most important thing to do when something is over. To be clear (Aries) as we end something with transparency (the high road of Libra).
We do not know how to say with kindness: this is over. To neutralize that truth is an art. No blame, no guilt, just ‘oh look, we are over’.
I have always found it amazing that while once you were standing in front of your loved ones saying ‘I DO’, all dressed up in that flowy white dress, proclaiming your devotion to love…and then years later, you find yourself driving to the lawyer’s office to tell them how awful that person is and that you are done (Aries). Pissed off and disappointed, you forget where the whole thing began. From love to disgust in mere years. Libra love versus Aries the warrior.
And here we have the full moon’s conversation, leading to this god-awful question: How do I take full responsibility for my life? No blame, no finger pointing…just saying ‘I am done. I learned my lesson. The expiration date arrived. Bye bye and thank you. We had a great ride. I adore who you are AND…kindness.’ No need to assassinate, judge, or diminish that person—just a clear ending.
We just passed a Jewish Holiday called Yom Kippur. It happens during Libra—in the Jewish culture, once a year, weeks after the New Year, you look behind and are asked to forgive whoever you had a bump with in the last year.
You can write them, go over to their home and have a peaceful (Libra) conversation to restate the new year with a fresh start. I did that with my ex. We completed in peace and love. What a beautiful exchange it was.
There are others that I have not yet found closure with. No matter—this conversation of the full moon (plus this beautiful Jewish holiday) begs the question: Is there anyone you need to forgive or be forgiven by? It’s an inside job, it doesn’t require the other person. This is the time for such a practice. I am doing my work. I hope you do the same.
Preparing for your death (next month’s Scorpio topic) happens by being sure no one behind you has been left with a pile of karma that you did not address. This full moon in Libra is a time to look at such a topic.
Other than that: have a great celebration. Any excuse for a Libra or Aries to party and they are in.
I am in love with this energy. It is strongly in my chart. To be real, in love or not—but real—is the art of every Libra’s life.
What I know for sure: I love writing these newsletters, and my Libra would love some feedback. Tell me about your relationship with endings and peace? I am so curious.