Moon in Sagittarius, Sun in Sagittarius.
When a heart breaks, it leaves behind a scar that fades yet never fully goes away.
So different from childbirth…it’s so easy to forgive the pain when the baby’s fingers wrap around yours. However, we do not forget the pain of betrayal, injustice, ghosting another, or cheating for a very, very long time — if ever.
This double Sagittarius sky asked me to give you a positive angle on one of the hardest topics we know: forgiveness. Forgiveness is not hardwired into our operating system. We have to learn it. I have no memory of a class in high school that tested us on FORGIVENESS… do you?
Think of how different the world would be if we practiced forgiveness effortlessly — as your liver gets rid of toxins. Your mind would easily release the wound and quickly thereafter cherish the word forgiveness as much as the body cherishes breathing, turning pain into gold. There is no need for the other person who struck you to be involved; they don’t even need to know you are seeking forgiveness. You forgive on your own and set yourself free.
In the last few years, I have hurt more and lost more friends than I have at any other point in my life. At first, the stinger was so painful I couldn’t stop crying. Then, I did serious therapy and owned my side of the street.
After a year or two, I realized only time would take the stinger out—time and wisdom — generous scoops of both. I was on a path seeking redemption (definition: to release from blame or debt; to free oneself from the consequences of sin). I wanted to free myself of guilt and to stop blaming the other. I did it with a lot of Sag energy. I had to be philosophical. Every time I would touch my Water (my emotional body), it hurt too much. So, I learned to slide into philosophy.
For example, this thought was liberating (lyrics from a song by Motörhead): “Everyone is guilty, there is no one to blame.” I found myself reading “The Wisdom of Forgiveness” by the Dalai Lama. It can work with just one participant. Forgiveness is a one-way street. This was his suggestion:
How To Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You
Forgiveness begins with a decision not to make the same mistake. You must realize that forgiving someone does not mean you are saying what they did was okay or didn’t hurt you, but that your anger and resentment toward them are no longer there.
Here are some tips:
Take a deep breath.
Decide to forgive the person and let go of your desire for revenge.
Ask yourself why they did what they did and try to see it from their point of view.
Focus on how you will be a better person if you forgive rather than remain bitter and angry.
Say sorry for your part in the conflict, even if you don’t think you are at fault.
Mercury Retrograde is starting just after this New Moon (Dec. 13 – Jan. 1). So Christmas and New Year is a time to remember. That’s what Mercury Retrograde is, all the words that start with RE – remember, review, return, recapitulate, go backward and see where adjustments can be made. This double Sag sky is filled with uplifting thoughts. No matter what has happened during this last year (and it’s been a doozy of bad news) or what you are face-to-face with: Life has your back. This is what I have learned and repeated to myself for a very long time.
Under this New Moon, the prayer is:
Help me to lighten up (said every double Sag).
Let me see the positive in all of this life.
When the pain is too big, remember to look up. Every Sagittarius has within them a latent optimist who can squeeze wisdom out of any experience. That is the gift of this sky. Life has your back.
This is the time to pray for positive energy to find its way to you. Ask, and you shall receive (another Sag one-liner — and it’s true). Last but not least: be thankful for ALL THINGS. All things? Yes, all things.
You will see how life is merely trying to stalk you to have faith and seek the high road. Wow, this is a spiritual blog. Double Sag is like that. So often, the spiritual one-liners do not carry weight, and we bypass our emotions with one-liners and take classes. I am asking you to see how you are at forgiveness. To be honest, this was not my strong suit — but in true Sag fashion, it is becoming so.
Did you know that Sagittarius prospers and becomes settled later in life? Mid-40s and on their time. So, if you haven’t been able to let go fully – there is time. Who’s in a rush when we have forever to get this right? (Another one-liner.)
The Sag in me made up that line, and it’s been serving me for a long time. Just know that forgiveness is the theme of the double Sagittarius sky.
This is so at point for me today. Just yesterday I reached out to a very special person that I hurt. I meant well but it came out wrong and I should have just kept things to myself. After not communicating since July they told me that they have forgiven me. They are going through a rough patch and “turtling” right now. It might take a while to get back to being where we were but I am feeling a bit better and am hopeful for the future.
I’m a double Sag, and i reallly needed to hear this today. Spot on!
Thanks for your wisdom
Thank you
Wow Debra. This came at the exact right time. My Sag daughter and I are 20 years about. We have always had a contentious relationship. She recently said some very harsh, hateful, hurtful words. I’ve blocked her from my phone and even contemplated not texting her on her birthday next week. Thank you for reminding me about forgiveness ❤️❤️❤️
Love this Debra! 🙏🏼💖🤩😏 Forgiveness is important. Resentment is super toxic and the root of much dis-ease! Thank you for all you do with such exuberance and joy! I definitely want to be like you when I grow up (I’m 53) 😂🤣😂
Thank you for Sharing. I appreciate you reminding me of the continuing process of forgiveness. It’s not a once and done act to acknowledge my part in all relationships where pain cleaves connection.
Your prayers inspire
Your writing teaches
I am grateful for our connection and the community of healers drawn to do this work.
So true Deb!
Lordy, Lordy, Lordy. With being a Sag and having so much Sag in my chart, this really rings true. It’s hard to forgive, but I do not like carrying a grudge. So letting all those negative feelings go, is the only way forward and can take, for me, a very long time. However…do NOT screw with me, again! Or you’ll be out of my life for good.
Now, at 76, I’m SETTLED ??!! Wow, I just thought I had lost my Chutzpah!
Thank you.. I needed these words and I will repeat
them when I am lost again.
Thank You. I really appreciate and needed this today 🙏🏿
Wow this was so beautiful thanks deb wise words
Thank you for sharing this Debra 💖. It was definitely divide guidance😇 I was awake from three in the morning till six this morning going over a past hurt betrayal that took place over two decades ago because of a comment made by a family member a few days ago. Kind of pulled me back to a time that I thought I had completely forgiven and moved on from and then I wake up groggy this morning get a cuppa coffee goi into my email and the first thing I see is this article you shared about forgiveness,!!! I would say this is a special synchronicity, and I will read this article more than once. Thank you once again, Debra
This came at the precise time Todayvas a Natural Healer since childhood i have been guided by my Angels to look at the phone and there whete your Words Debra Light Blessings for your Honesty Than k You Sheilha Jackson living in Canada 😇🌟🌻
Great post, Debra! My Mercury in Sagittarius wanted to offer up a great theme song to accompany the current sky and your post! 😀
This is one of my new fav artists! Got to see her at Red Rocks with Brandi Carlile recently.
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Love to you 💖 Missy
Great words of wisdom said the Sagittarius with a stellium of Sagittarius. Saturn in Scorpio on ASC. Hard to forget the hurt.
Thank you, I needed this
Thank you for sharing. Great thoughts, ideas and wisdom. We are ALL ONE.with GAIA, MOTHER EARTH, AGARTHA .UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is our Source Energy. Act on that to the best of your ability in your chosen unique, individual participant journey in this NOW. I LOVE YOU!
Thank You Debra. I am grateful you listened to pass on the message. You probably did much more than you realize by doing so. I am double fire. Sag rising being one of them. Water moon and I am feeling the fire within. Saying what you said. Yet I had got hot under the collar for a while vs. forgiveness. It used to be more effortless to let go. This feels big. Better to be done with it and let it go. We all know that. If this message of yours reaches you, bless you going thru years of emotions, and then to let go of. I was going to write if your message reaches the world, we are in luck. Suggested typing said, ‘you’ so I continued with. Thanks for message. I am not feeling as firey now.