Here comes another full moon where the Sun and Moon are opposite. They polarize during a full moon, and sing of themes that are diverse and even conflicted—until we arrive and try to mediate.
In this month’s case, one flavor says Me, Me, Me (that would be the Sun in Aries), while the Moon says: What about us? And how are we doing (Libra)? Me versus you—I think it’s safe to say every relationship has this tune running around in their heads.
Mercury has finally left Pisces! Nothing personal, but I would say that’s a relief. Powerful Mars is in talkative Gemini for awhile—it’s a time to be energized.
We all long for romance. Admit it, no one can deny the beauty of seeing love. And yet, there is the constant balancing act of staying true to oneself, while not getting lost in the sucky romance novel that has nothing to do with reality.
I have a very close friend who found her love seven years ago, but she insisted they never live together. This is the best example of love, yet independence. They share a bed more times than not, but she will not let the relationship get stagnant and go soft. She wants a red hot fire to be in her life without giving in to some romantic notion of you have to stay close all. the. time.
I have learned a lot from this example. In every situation I am always setting free my captives. The people who life has assigned me as the close ones: my kids, my lover, my right-hand partners in work—they must always have a large bandwidth to roam so they can return out of their free will.
I have to say one of my favorite qualities I learned about in high school religion class was the theme of non-attachment. This is this full moon topic. Do I love you enough to set you free? It sounds so cliché, but what if you lived with the feeling of letting go, of not knowing, of wanting to have the other open to choose you again?
I think the greatest teachers are our animals—they come and go way too soon and equally with our kids. We adore them, they are Velcro and stuck to us and then…they leave. It’s at that moment (which I prepare for, use death as your ally) as they leave you are learning about how to let go and trust love in all its colors.
This is not an easy topic. Empty nesters know it, when you have a break up, when you are on the fence—someone once said to me: just shoot the horse. If you know it’s time to let go, this is the full moon to do so. If you know you’re opening your heart—give it all you’ve got, knowing you are at the center (Aries) of your reality. No one has power over you but YOU.
It’s so true. You always come first and then the relationship will survive. Promise. The Buddha doesn’t have a big belly for no reason—letting go tends to make us nervous, so we eat a bit too much, drink a bit too much…it’s scary.
This is the full moon to realize everything is a dance between me and me: can I set this world free and keep letting go or do I stagnant everything with the pretense that we are safe by me pretending to nail down, own and control? ‘Life flows as we let go,’ said the Buddha.
‘It is better to conquer yourself than win a million battles,’ said Buddha. What a great quote. This game is all about you and you.
This full moon demands you address your independence and that of others. We own no one—we are just sharing space and trusting the love will last forever.