I have not had the best luck in sustained, long-term romantic relationships. I am one of those Geminis that has known love in too many shades to count. I am telling you this because there is a double Libra sky showing up today — while Venus has gone retrograde in Scorpio — and it is time to review the patterns we play out in the most important game in town: relationship.
As we always suggest during a dark sky, take the time to reflect. A full moon screams: Come on out! Howl to me. A new moon says: Stay inside and consider the theme of the month, in this case: LOVE!
For so long, I felt like a failure. I thought it was my ‘bad’ karma that relationship escaped me.
My first husband (who was a great guy) suffered from a disease that had us humbled and surrendered to circumstance that interrupted everything. It was all about his healing. While it was a sweet love affair fate, destiny (call it what you will) got in our way. Illness changes all things and had us in a slow dance with survival. He eventually passed, and while the story is a complicated one, the short story was that I had to let go of the dream of romance and happy ever after in my early 30’s.
I struggled to find a partner years later, and I did for some time. I never found that ‘perfect’ partner; however, what I did have in spades (and this too belongs to our Libra consideration) is partnership in the name of friendships. To know who has your back — to feel comforted by a friend who listens to you — is also relationship.
As Venus goes backwards (it is retrograde from October 5 – November 16, 2018), it begs us to look back with objective eyes. I see that I know relationship — I have long, sustained friendships that have never missed a beat. People know me deeply, and accept me just as I am, with no request for me to change.
Who in your world do you consider your ‘relations’? Who do you want to give back to without constraint? Who is the person you just LOVE for who they are — flaws, challenges and all? This is the time under this double Libra sky to reach out and say: I just love you. I am so grateful to you.
Because I am a Libra rising, I have a tendency to have this kind of conversation often. I send love letters. I buy gifts. I remind those I love how much fun it is to know them. This is the time to be hopeless romantic to whomever you love.
Feel into your Libra energy. We have access to every flavor. This month is all about Hallmark cards, flowers, sweet things and sharing in the love for relationship/friendship — no matter what your karma has been.
Mine has not been that easy, yet now as an elder, I have learned to love in so many ways. And yes, I too have finally found a love — romantic and sweet — even though I had given up and thought my karma finalized.
Everything is changing. Let’s never give up hope in love and know our job is to keep our heart open, to believe in love and dream that you too can find what you are looking for—even if it’s with a pet, a friend or a child. Love has so many shapes.
Love is spreading, like water upon the sand not missing a grain.